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Share your own experiences of love after kids. How have things changed? What do you bicker about the most? And how do you keep the spark alive and stay connected with each other?
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Sophie from Mas & Pas

Sophie from Mas & Pas

10 Everyday Ways to Make Each Other Feel Special

 

Little ways to say ‘I love you’ can make you both feel appreciated. Here are 10 things that you can start today. Every little gesture can make you feel more in sync with each other and stronger as a couple.

 

1. Make your partner a cuppa in the morning

 

It’s a loving thought and one of the nicest ways to start the day.

 

2. Go for an after-dinner walk

 

It doesn’t have to be long. Even a 10 minutes stroll with the kids. If you can, hold each other’s hands too.

 

3. Give them a foot massage

 

A surprise foot massage at the end of a long day is a surefire way to say ‘I love you’, and is usually much appreciated.

 

It also gives you both that touch and intimacy that you may have been missing all day apart.

 

4. Say Thank You for the little things

 

For doing the washing up, for settling the baby, for bringing back milk on the way home...

 

Gratitude for the little things goes a long way to making us feel appreciated.

 

5. Text them throughout the day

 

Stay in touch and share little moments of your day. Especially if they are so different.

 

6. Ask ‘How was your day?’

 

...and really listen to the answer. Either pause what you’re doing when they get home and ask. Or find a quiet 5 minutes later to find out about their day.

 

7. Read the same book or listen to the same podcast

 

Do it independently rather than together. You’ll then have loads to talk to each other about. Often intellectual connections like this can make us feel closer to our partners in other ways too.

 

8. Plan something together

 

It doesn’t have to be a holiday. It could be a night away, an evening out or something you plan to do on the weekend.

 

9. Remember to say ‘I love you’

 

Days get busy, we rush around and can often forget to take a moment to pause. Try to take a moment to say ‘I love you’ Even when your routines are different.

 

10. Kiss each other goodnight no matter what

 

Always kiss each other goodnight. Even (or especially when) you’ve been bickering or have had a rough day.

 

What little things does your partner do to let you know they love you?

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Sophie from Mas & Pas

Sophie from Mas & Pas

Ana_bre
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Ana_bre

We try to watch the same Netflix show

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emmam
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emmam

He drops me off at work ❤️

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heather

heather

What do you find is the hardest thing about keeping the romance alive while raising kids?

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Claire McD

Just trying to keep things exciting when the days are so busy and full of busy tasks. When the kids are in bed we should be snuggling and connecting but I just want some peace and quiet. I must admit I will always choose sleep over sex! Is that bad? I just feel all 'touched out' after the kids have been pawing me all day and I'm so knackered. I do worry ... My mum does baby sit every so often and we do get out and it's always lovely.

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Sophia

Sophia

10 New Year's Resolutions for Parents

We can be forgotten in the rush of everyday parenting. Resolve to make 2020 your best year as a couple with these bond-strengthening pledges.

 

1. Stop fighting about the little things

It’s easy to get bogged down with all the little niggles. But resentment over the little things can build up and make you be toxic for relationships. Promise to try not to fight over the little things this year.

2. Put down your phones more often

You can’t talk or connect properly if one (or both) of you are scrolling through your phone. Vow to put them down whenever you’re talking. And more often in general so that screens don’t cause barriers between you.

3. Plan in regular date nights…

If you don’t plan them in and book the babysitter to make sure they happen then weeks or months can go by without any time to spend as a couple. Get those diaries out and plan your first few now.

4. Go to bed at the same time

It’s such an easy habit to fall out of. But it’s a great time to connect with some pillow talk and snuggles to end the day.

5. Start the ‘Daily Question’

Every day ask each other ‘What can I do today to make your day a little easier?’. It might be a little thing that can make a big difference. Asking shows you care and helps you work together as a team.

6. Do something new every month

Novelty keeps your relationship fresh. Plan in one new thing to do together each month. Share those new adventures and experiences together.

7. Do small acts of kindness for each other

The small acts of kindness that show you care. Making each other a cuppa, sending texts throughout the day, picking up a small treat you know will cheer your partner’s day...

8. Say ‘yes’ to sex more often

Use it or lose it, so the saying goes. It’s easy to let sex slip to the bottom of the agenda when you’re knackered and busy. This year promise to say ‘yes’ so sex more often.

9. Engage in PDA every day

A Private Display of Affection that is. It can be a hug, a kiss or even just holding hands. Make this year the one you’ll touch more.

10. Say ‘I love you’ more often

Say it at least once a day. Because you do. It’s always the loveliest thing to hear.

Which of the resolutions will you vow to make this year? Are there any we’ve missed?

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Sophia

Sophia

Carselea

Carselea

Hands up - how many of you have thermostat wars? When you want to put the temperature up and your hubby turns it back down?

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Rowan
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We do! I like it warm and toasty. He mutters and keeps turning it down 😂

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Sophia

Sophia

Happy New Year! Are you making any resolutions for you as a couple this year?

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heather
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Yes! Our goal is to manage to spend just 1 night away the 2 of us! We haven't managed it in the last 6 years but here's to 2020

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marialev
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marialev

We've given up on time alone and we're just trying to do more days out together and with the kids along. We can usually get a 1 minute conversation in at some point in the day!

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Carselea

Carselea

If you could go back in time, what advice would you give yourself as a newly wed that would improve your marriage?

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Carselea

heather
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To not get so stressed about the small stuff and to make a little time for just us two every week!

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Nicola

Nicola

What is your best memory of your wedding day?

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emmam
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emmam

I remember the morning that I was getting married and how surreal it felt. All I could eat was toast I was so nervous

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emily_l

emily_l

We always seem to argue about the fridge. How full it is or how disorganised it is...it happens twice a week like clockwork! I don't know if we're alone or if anyone else has a similar argument that happens over and over?

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marialev
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marialev

Yes! we have it about the toothpaste. He always leaves the top off and I can't understand why it's so hard to put the top back on something when you've used it!

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heather
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heather

We bicker more when we're both hanging around the house. Try to keep us busy busy on weekends so we're not going at each other over silly stuff!

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marialev

marialev

Does anyone manage to do a weekly date night together? We tried for a while but things always seem to get too busy!

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Sophia N
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We try when we can but it depends on how hectic things are. Sometimes we manage quite a few and other times a month could go by where we don't go out the two of us.

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Nicola

Nicola

Do you always give your partner a kiss goodbye and hello? ????

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Sophia N
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Sophia N

We try to...I'm not so good at remembering when we're rushing out the house!

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Carselea
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Carselea

Always xx

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Holly B
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Holly B

This morning my hubby left without giving me a kiss goodbye and I was so sad.

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