Love after kids

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Share your own experiences of love after kids. How have things changed? What do you bicker about the most? And how do you keep the spark alive and stay connected with each other?
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emily_l

emily_l

We always seem to argue about the fridge. How full it is or how disorganised it is...it happens twice a week like clockwork! I don't know if we're alone or if anyone else has a similar argument that happens over and over?

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marialev
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marialev

Yes! we have it about the toothpaste. He always leaves the top off and I can't understand why it's so hard to put the top back on something when you've used it!

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heather
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heather

We bicker more when we're both hanging around the house. Try to keep us busy busy on weekends so we're not going at each other over silly stuff!

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marialev

marialev

Does anyone manage to do a weekly date night together? We tried for a while but things always seem to get too busy!

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Sophia N
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Sophia N

We try when we can but it depends on how hectic things are. Sometimes we manage quite a few and other times a month could go by where we don't go out the two of us.

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Nicola

Nicola

Do you always give your partner a kiss goodbye and hello? ????

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Nicola

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Sophia N
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Sophia N

We try to...I'm not so good at remembering when we're rushing out the house!

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Carselea
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Carselea

Always xx

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Holly B
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Holly B

This morning my hubby left without giving me a kiss goodbye and I was so sad.

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emmam

emmam

We definitely argue more since we’ve had kids!

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Sophia N

Sophia N

We've ended up trying a new 'thing', where we agree that we will meet at a certain time at home - to just talk and have a 10 minute conversation.

It's usually in the evenings when the kids are watching a show before bathtime begins, but it's actually nice to be able to talk without getting interrupted every 2 seconds or rushing around to this and that. And we're not too tired yet either to just relax. We'll see if it lasts!

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Carselea
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Carselea

I Loe that idea. We do it too - not really a concrete plan but we make 10 minutes for each other each evening in between the busy bits of tea and baths. Just to say 'Hello' properly and catch up on our days. By the time the kids are in bed we're usually too tired to do more than flop in from of the telly!

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Nicola

Nicola

Does anyone ever feel you and your partner are like tips that pass in the night. We're together in evenings but our time is taken up looking after the kids and when they're in bed we choose to chill separately as we both just crave our space. He goes to bed early and I'm a night own. But then I worry that weeks fly by and we never get to spend any quality time together. Is it just is or does anyone else feel like this?

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marialev
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marialev

We definitely end up doing this...and then the days pass and you wonder where the time's gone.


We try to sit and have dinner together but even then we're both so tired after the kids have gone down...there just never seems to be a good time to make for the two of us.

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emmam
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emmam

Its is too! We even watch different TV shows whenever we do watch TV so I think there’s no hope!

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Sophia N

Sophia N

Our 'goal' for this year is to manage a night or two away from the kids just the two of us...

I haven't managed to go anywhere since my eldest was born and I know so many couples that say they really need a few mini breaks here and there just the two of them.

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Holly B
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Holly B

Do it! We try to get away at least once a year for a night or two. I worry so much that the kids will miss us and cry. But they almost always have a ball with their grandparents (our trusted babysitters) and the time away recharges us both and reconnects us as a couple. It's amazing how much sweeter the little luxuries are too - like having a bath without being interrupted and eating a cooked breakfast without having to cut up and blow on food and hand out colouring books to keep little people entertained. Bliss!

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marialev

marialev

We always aim to find some time every week for the two to us to spend time and catch up. But to be honest it's hard to carve it out and to stay stress free in everyday life. Work, school runs, kids activities, deadlines, groceries...it all piles up.

So the only way we've managed to cope with it all is to just get away.

Even if it's a stay-cation somewhere an hour's drive away it always helps if we can get away from the everyday routine.

We come back feeling like we've been on a trip abroad. Does anyone else do this or are we the only ones that need to 'escape'?

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marialev

marialev

Yes No